Relationships in Histrionic Times

You know how people always talk about how ‘attention seeking’ we have become in this Facebook/Instagram generation?? We will post almost anything – even bodies in coffins – to get likes and sympathy. Or videos in compromising situations that should be private. Our bodies have become viral artwork […]

Love Kills – episode 1

I started writing this on the 18th of November. That is three weeks ago. You know how they speak about work-life balance? Well that is just hot-air because sometimes, work is the entirety of life. Additionally, life is work – the daily activity of living is hard work. […]

We don’t know them – and yet

I don’t know these women, yet, my heart is broken by their deaths. We have never met the children and they mean nothing to us. Why then does it feel like our collective souls were dragged into the children’s death. You know nothing about these murderous men or […]

21 days as the Beginning of New Beginnings

Have you ever heard that it takes 21 days to change or set a habit? Have you tried it and has it worked? It is a lie. The lie started in 1960 when the Dr. Maltz published his thoughts on behavior change in a book called Psycho-Cybernetics (audiobook). […]

Unconditional Love and Mental Health

Have you ever loved anyone so much, you expect nothing back? Unconditional love basically means you’re not expecting anything in return. I have always felt a little defect because I have never loved another adult unconditionally. Not once. I have no children, so that explains that. Though I […]

Does Beauty protect us from mental illness?

Does beauty protect us from mental illness? This question was asked at a mental health conference I once attended. A speaker spoke about beauty, the lack of beauty and its effect on mental health. It reminded me of the story below, and the lessons I learned about beauty. […]

1:59 things you need to know before you turn 34

So Eliud Kipchoge ran 42km in under 2 minutes. He is 34 years old – an age when most people have given up, and are just pushing life (kusukumana na maisha). Some well-wishers even advice us to just lie down and die after 30 – especially if you’re […]

7 things to unLearn to Prevent Suicide

Did you know that every 40 seconds, someone, somewhere in their world takes their own life? Count that. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10 . . . . . . . . . . . . .40. In recent years, I have thought a […]

Borderline Life – Borderline Relationships

My maternal aunt was on medication for as long as I can remember. For madness. That is what people said, even her relatives. Ni wazimu. She is mad. When she didn’t take her medications, as she sometimes forgot or refused; she became totally unmanageable. Unkempt, inward focused so […]

A Letter on Consistent Passion in Relationships?

On Twitter, I do these theme weeks that simply raise a question and let people vote. Now, I don’t have so many followers, but has a challenge such as few followers ever discouraged me? No. The hardest part of a journey is the start, right? So, if you […]