It was Almost too Late when I Learnt that…

To Say no. Be alone. To enjoy kind easy silences without guilt or explanation, is Self-Care Neglecting or endangering your physical, psychological or emotional (mental) health in any way, is Self-Sabotage Self-Centered. Selfish or unkind are symptoms of living in survival-mode Prioritizing your material needs, health and happiness […]

ACEs Adverse Community Environments

The Role of Community in Trauma Resilience and Healing is so complex, it is impossible to capture in one post. Below I break drown the list Adverse Community Environments in a story. The story describes how members of society embed trauma in a community. I was once once […]

ACEs Adverse Childhood Experiences

I have made no secret of the fact that I grew up with an alcoholic father. This means that the entire family, yes, including the extended family, was a maze of enabling behaviors. My childhood was almost entirely lost to this phenomena – which makes me very attentive […]

Internet Strangers can Be Lifesavers

So, we are back! How have you been? It has been over 3 months without a post. No writing and no reading. Isn’t it interesting how times of high confusion and lack of clarity about the future paralyze our brains? Routines are known to be good for our […]

Mindfulness as a COVID19 Coping Technique

Its mental health awareness month, and it’s also mental health awareness week. Statistics show that nearly 45% of adults mental health in the USA have been negatively impacted due to worries and stress over the virus. In Kenya alone, Intimate Partner Violence plus Gender Based Violence cases have […]

Emotionally Low-Maintenance

Are you aware that May is Mental Health Awareness Month? If yes, have you been doing anything to care for your mental health more than you usually do? Otherwise, start now! we still have 2 weeks! I have been thinking a lot about how in my early 20s […]

7 spiritual Laws of Success by Deepak Chopra

Remember our last post Dreams of a Better Future was about Trauma Bonds? Imagine this is a continuation of that post! I was having this brilliant conversation with a friend about romantic entanglements. You are suddenly a part of a triangle and you don’t know which corner of […]

Dreams of a Better Future

Have you ever bonded with someone too quick? Almost too quick? And discovered a few weeks or months later that it was not the best idea to bond with this person at all? That there was too much pain there? Or anger? Whatever it was, it made you […]

5 ways to take care of your mental health during #21daysLockdown

I borrowed this from DESTINY CAREERS authored by Pearl Boshomane Tsotetsi because why invent something that already exists? Go read some more under the Life Under COVID-19 —————————————————————————————– Here are five simple but effective tools you can use to keep yourself and those who are around  you psychologically […]

6 Types Of Boundaries You Deserve To Have and How To Maintain Them

This is copied from MBG relationships authored by By Elizabeth Earnshaw. Many people have the wrong idea about boundaries. They believe that they already have good boundaries when in reality they have brick walls, or they believe that boundaries are “unkind.” Healthy boundaries are the ultimate guide to […]