Sometimes…

Sometimes you try to do the right things for yourself and they turn out to be the wrong things. Sometimes you try to make amends for screwing up and you end up in a deeper hole than you were before. More depressed than you were before. Sometimes change […]

The damaging cycle of Shame and how to handle it

We all feel some level of shame for something – either something from the past or something in our current lives. The danger with shame is that we can mistake feeling sorry for a mistake – guilt, repentance, remorse, regret etc – with shame. On the other side, […]

The paradox of a peaceful, harmonious life

How do you define Harmony? How do you define Peace-of-mind? Harmony is defined as forming a pleasing or consistent whole. To be free from disagreement or dissent. Which in its essence requires us to consciously reduce the chaos and messes in our lives. Peace of mind is the […]

Establishing connections for better emotional health

Have you heard of or read Johan Hari’s book, Lost Connections? It is a bold and inspiring book where he shares his own journey with depression – but the book is helpful to far more than just those who suffer from depression. As Hari shows, we all have […]

Femicide in Kenya – a symptom of a cultural shift or a lost generation?

Kenya is a deeply traditional and patriarchal society. In patriarchy, we create misogyny - where men think they are better than women, stronger than women, smarter than women, deserve more than women. Entitled. In a society where many women are marching towards equality and equity, the female becomes the male’s enemy number 1. And women...

Why do people rape?

Why do people rape? At a recent event, I asked two questions: Have you ever raped someone? Have you ever been raped? Of course no hands were raised! I wasn’t expecting any hands up either, because rape is the shame of all shames. When we talk about rape, […]

4 situations when Love isn’t enough

I seem to have loved you in numberless forms, numberless times. In life after life, in age after age, forever. My spellbound heart has made and remade the necklace of songs, That you take as a gift, wear round your neck in your many forms, In life after life, in age after age, forever.

Beware the lie of – “Be a man, Be strong…”

Ronald Chepkwony was only 16 years old when his dad died. He narrates the story of being a privileged child, being bankrupted by disease and leading a non-privileged, grief-stricken adulthood. He starts by  telling us about his childhood, a distant father, who did not show any emotion and […]

When Pain is masked as Anger

Two days ago, a 16-year-old high school boy stabbed his mother’s boyfriend to death in Kericho County. Apparently, he asked him “what are you doing here? You are not my father!?” His mother is widowed, so she was not having an affair. This also means that the boy […]

There is solace in breaking our silence.

“There is a solace in breaking our silence. A strength of spirit when sharing our truth. It all starts with the choice to live on the other side of victim.” Christine Macdonald In honor of living on the other side of victim, this weekend, the ladies at Growth […]