The damaging cycle of Shame and how to handle it

We all feel some level of shame for something – either something from the past or something in our current lives. The danger with shame is that we can mistake feeling sorry for a mistake – guilt, repentance, remorse, regret etc – with shame. On the other side, […]

The paradox of a peaceful, harmonious life

How do you define Harmony? How do you define Peace-of-mind? Harmony is defined as forming a pleasing or consistent whole. To be free from disagreement or dissent. Which in its essence requires us to consciously reduce the chaos and messes in our lives. Peace of mind is the […]

Establishing connections for better emotional health

Have you heard of or read Johan Hari’s book, Lost Connections? It is a bold and inspiring book where he shares his own journey with depression – but the book is helpful to far more than just those who suffer from depression. As Hari shows, we all have […]

Femicide in Kenya – a symptom of a cultural shift or a lost generation?

Kenya is a deeply traditional and patriarchal society. In patriarchy, we create misogyny - where men think they are better than women, stronger than women, smarter than women, deserve more than women. Entitled. In a society where many women are marching towards equality and equity, the female becomes the male’s enemy number 1. And women...

Beware the lie of – “Be a man, Be strong…”

Ronald Chepkwony was only 16 years old when his dad died. He narrates the story of being a privileged child, being bankrupted by disease and leading a non-privileged, grief-stricken adulthood. He starts by  telling us about his childhood, a distant father, who did not show any emotion and […]

There is solace in breaking our silence.

“There is a solace in breaking our silence. A strength of spirit when sharing our truth. It all starts with the choice to live on the other side of victim.” Christine Macdonald In honor of living on the other side of victim, this weekend, the ladies at Growth […]

You want to belong to yourself? Then act like it!

You know how you spent days, weeks, nights, weekends – months and years – consistently doing things to make someone stay with you? You missed a chance to go to college – because you were afraid they would not miss you. You thought that if you left, they […]

7 Guidelines when Choosing Your Support System

We go on and on about support systems – the people who help us stay upright and heal when we would rather lie down in a dark room and disappear from life’s unceasing glare. But WHO are these people and HOW are we supposed to pick the best […]

‘Marriage’ made in Heaven…Ruining your mental health?

Or dysfunction made in hell…? Have you seen, or experienced, a ‘marriage’ that has droven its honoured and honourable members to the grave? Or to madness? I have. Imagine my friend from high school *Lucy. She has been with *Boss for 15 years. They have 2 children together […]

Chasing un-available people? It can stress you into a depression!

There is this thin line between regular positive stress, chronic stress and depression. Positive stress can egg you on to positive action. Chronic stress can paralyze your ability to make decisions and depression definitely blinds you to your options, making it impossible to make a decision. Usually, we […]