Emotionally Low-Maintenance

Are you aware that May is Mental Health Awareness Month? If yes, have you been doing anything to care for your mental health more than you usually do? Otherwise, start now! we still have 2 weeks! I have been thinking a lot about how in my early 20s […]

Dreams of a Better Future

Have you ever bonded with someone too quick? Almost too quick? And discovered a few weeks or months later that it was not the best idea to bond with this person at all? That there was too much pain there? Or anger? Whatever it was, it made you […]

BikoZulu on Fatherhood & Father wounds

What if you saw your father murder your mother? Watched your mother bleed to death? What if you then saw your father behind bars as you testified to get him put in jail? What happens to you when you have to live an entire life with this memory? […]

Good Health is the Greatest Blessing of all

The entrepreneur and author Phineas Taylor Barnum said: “The foundation of success in life is good health: that is the substratum fortune; it is also the basis of happiness. A person cannot accumulate a fortune very well, or seek happiness when he/she is sick.” He should know. Many […]

Beware the lie – “Be a man, Be strong…”

Ronald Chepkwony was only 16 years old when his dad died. He narrates the story of being a privileged child, being bankrupted by disease and leading a non-privileged, grief-stricken adulthood. He starts by  telling us about his childhood, a distant father, who did not show any emotion and […]

When Pain is masked as Anger

Two days ago, a 16-year-old high school boy stabbed his mother’s boyfriend to death in Kericho County. Apparently, he asked him “what are you doing here? You are not my father!?” His mother is widowed, so she was not having an affair. This also means that the boy […]

There is solace in breaking our silence.

“There is a solace in breaking our silence. A strength of spirit when sharing our truth. It all starts with the choice to live on the other side of victim.” Christine Macdonald In honor of living on the other side of victim, this weekend, the ladies at Growth […]