It was Almost too Late when I Learnt that…

To Say no. Be alone. To enjoy kind easy silences without guilt or explanation, is Self-Care Neglecting or endangering your physical, psychological or emotional (mental) health in any way, is Self-Sabotage Self-Centered. Selfish or unkind are symptoms of living in survival-mode Prioritizing your material needs, health and happiness […]

ACEs Adverse Community Environments

The Role of Community in Trauma Resilience and Healing is so complex, it is impossible to capture in one post. Below I break drown the list Adverse Community Environments in a story. The story describes how members of society embed trauma in a community. I was once once […]

ACEs Adverse Childhood Experiences

I have made no secret of the fact that I grew up with an alcoholic father. This means that the entire family, yes, including the extended family, was a maze of enabling behaviors. My childhood was almost entirely lost to this phenomena – which makes me very attentive […]

Does Beauty protect us from mental illness?

Does beauty protect us from mental illness? This question was asked at a mental health conference I once attended. A speaker spoke about beauty, the lack of beauty and its effect on mental health. It reminded me of the story below, and the lessons I learned about beauty. […]

What do your physical scars say about your life?

All scars are a sign of a healing or a healed wound, right? Or they are a Jason Momoa signum. Some scars are sensitive – the body still remembers the injury, itchy sometimes, a little painful in the cold or in the heat. Many scars are silent – […]

o jewa ke eng? – What is eating you up?

There is a Lesotho tweet by a user calling herself/himself Keabetswe, on Twitter. It is a simple question – o jewa ke eng? – that has received lots of responses. The responses vary from the unemployed narrating the pitfalls of unemployment – rents unpaid, school fees backlogging, meals […]