21 days as the Beginning of New Beginnings

Have you ever heard that it takes 21 days to change or set a habit? Have you tried it and has it worked? It is a lie. The lie started in 1960 when the Dr. Maltz published his thoughts on behavior change in a book called Psycho-Cybernetics (audiobook). […]

Unconditional Love and Mental Health

Have you ever loved anyone so much, you expect nothing back? Unconditional love basically means you’re not expecting anything in return. I have always felt a little defect because I have never loved another adult unconditionally. Not once. I have no children, so that explains that. Though I […]

7 things to unLearn to Prevent Suicide

Did you know that every 40 seconds, someone, somewhere in their world takes their own life? Count that. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10 . . . . . . . . . . . . .40. In recent years, I have thought a […]

Relationships in Histrionic Times

You know how people always talk about how ‘attention seeking’ we have become in this Facebook/Instagram generation?? We will post almost anything – even bodies in coffins – to get likes and sympathy. Or videos in compromising situations that should be private. Our bodies have become viral artwork […]

Paranoid Personality Disorder in Relationships

In previous posts in this series, we listed the Personality Disorders that can make it impossible to achieve stable mental health in relationships. We have done Antisocial Personality Disorder (ASPD), Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) and OCD vs OCPD. These three personality disorders are also listed as basic culprits […]

What do your physical scars say about your life?

All scars are a sign of a healing or a healed wound, right? Or they are a Jason Momoa signum. Some scars are sensitive – the body still remembers the injury, itchy sometimes, a little painful in the cold or in the heat. Many scars are silent – […]

One Day I Will Write About The Love I Lost

By Camistare She loved me enough to walk away, loved me so deeply to let go for that is how she put it. I always thought if she ever left I would die and I was right because when she left I died to all that I ever […]

10 things I Know about Bipolar Disorder

Did you ever meet someone who spoke about something and you thought: “I have heard about it, but I know so little about it!” A couple of months ago, one of our members spoke about his/her bipolar journey and triggered my learn more process. I knew the basics, […]

o jewa ke eng? – What is eating you up?

There is a Lesotho tweet by a user calling herself/himself Keabetswe, on Twitter. It is a simple question – o jewa ke eng? – that has received lots of responses. The responses vary from the unemployed narrating the pitfalls of unemployment – rents unpaid, school fees backlogging, meals […]

Awareness – the simplicities and complexities

In previous posts, we have written about Shame and we have written about Harmony. This week, we move on to nr. 3 of the SHAMAR wheel of mental health (Shameless, Harmonious, Aware/Attitude, Motivated, Accountable, Resourceful). Awareness is one of the building stones to good mental health and in […]