Lwile the Leo on Personality-Changing-Pressure

I stumbled onto this blog-post and I really want to share it with you. I copy-pasted the whole post – but please go to Lwile the Leo’s blog and binge! You will love it. ——————————————————————————————————————- In 2014/2015 my BFF told me that firstborns are their mum’s best friends. […]

Kaari – a mother without a child

Kaari was 41 closing up on 42 when she realized that she may never have her own children. Not a single child from her body. She had never been married, not for lack of mates, rather lack of interest in the institution of marriage. There had been relationships, […]

Christine and Castro

I started writing this on the 18th of November. That is three weeks ago. You know how they speak about work-life balance? Well that is just hot-air because sometimes, work is the entirety of life. Additionally, life is work – the daily activity of living is hard work. […]

21 days as the Beginning of New Beginnings

Have you ever heard that it takes 21 days to change or set a habit? Have you tried it and has it worked? It is a lie. The lie started in 1960 when the Dr. Maltz published his thoughts on behavior change in a book called Psycho-Cybernetics (audiobook). […]

7 things to unLearn to Prevent Suicide

Did you know that every 40 seconds, someone, somewhere in their world takes their own life? Count that. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10 . . . . . . . . . . . . .40. In recent years, I have thought a […]

Relationships in Histrionic Times

You know how people always talk about how ‘attention seeking’ we have become in this Facebook/Instagram generation?? We will post almost anything – even bodies in coffins – to get likes and sympathy. Or videos in compromising situations that should be private. Our bodies have become viral artwork […]

Borderline Life – Borderline Relationships

My maternal aunt was on medication for as long as I can remember. For madness. That is what people said, even her relatives. Ni wazimu. She is mad. When she didn’t take her medications, as she sometimes forgot or refused; she became totally unmanageable. Unkempt, inward focused so […]

A Letter on Consistent Passion in Relationships?

On Twitter, I do these theme weeks that simply raise a question and let people vote. Now, I don’t have so many followers, but has a challenge such as few followers ever discouraged me? No. The hardest part of a journey is the start, right? So, if you […]

Schizoid & Schizotypal PDs in Relationships

Today is my birthday. I do very little to celebrate my birthday. Unfortunately, I think the day I was born is so insignificant, it needs no attention. Even my mother, the one who went through the infamous labour pains, does not remember the day I was born. I […]

This Week Briefly

I sometimes feel like life makes up ways to interrupt itself. Like life itself feels itself moving too fast for me, it makes me pause, breath and appreciate yesterday. I am at a new job. If you ever been at a new job, you know how minutes spin […]