The damaging cycle of Shame and how to handle it

We all feel some level of shame for something – either something from the past or something in our current lives. The danger with shame is that we can mistake feeling sorry for a mistake – guilt, repentance, remorse, regret etc – with shame. On the other side, […]

Why do people rape?

Why do people rape? At a recent event, I asked two questions: Have you ever raped someone? Have you ever been raped? Of course no hands were raised! I wasn’t expecting any hands up either, because rape is the shame of all shames. When we talk about rape, […]

Beware the lie of – “Be a man, Be strong…”

Ronald Chepkwony was only 16 years old when his dad died. He narrates the story of being a privileged child, being bankrupted by disease and leading a non-privileged, grief-stricken adulthood. He starts by  telling us about his childhood, a distant father, who did not show any emotion and […]

There is solace in breaking our silence.

“There is a solace in breaking our silence. A strength of spirit when sharing our truth. It all starts with the choice to live on the other side of victim.” Christine Macdonald In honor of living on the other side of victim, this weekend, the ladies at Growth […]

You want to belong to yourself? Then act like it!

You know how you spent days, weeks, nights, weekends – months and years – consistently doing things to make someone stay with you? You missed a chance to go to college – because you were afraid they would not miss you. You thought that if you left, they […]

7 Guidelines when Choosing Your Support System

We go on and on about support systems – the people who help us stay upright and heal when we would rather lie down in a dark room and disappear from life’s unceasing glare. But WHO are these people and HOW are we supposed to pick the best […]

Happy Healthy 2019!

For growth catalysts, 2019 will be about Forgiveness. Forgiving oneself. Seeking Forgiveness from others. Accepting Forgiveness and feeling forgiven. Healing ourselves by letting forgiveness take center stage.