One Day I Will Write About The Love I Lost

By Camistare She loved me enough to walk away, loved me so deeply to let go for that is how she put it. I always thought if she ever left I would die and I was right because when she left I died to all that I ever […]

10 things I Know about Bipolar Disorder

Did you ever meet someone who spoke about something and you thought: “I have heard about it, but I know so little about it!” A couple of months ago, one of our members spoke about his/her bipolar journey and triggered my learn more process. I knew the basics, […]

Awareness – the simplicities and complexities

In previous posts, we have written about Shame and we have written about Harmony. This week, we move on to nr. 3 of the SHAMAR wheel of mental health (Shameless, Harmonious, Aware/Attitude, Motivated, Accountable, Resourceful). Awareness is one of the building stones to good mental health and in […]

Depression is not a joke – a poem

They think you are insane They think you have a choice They think you can voice your pain They think you can get a better solution They think you are a rich spoilt kid They see you as an immature kid who don’t know what life holds They […]

Dealing with time shortage

At times, 168 hours are not enough to accomplish all the things on the “weekly” list. A great deal about mental health and self care is recognizing and accepting time limitation as the stress trigger it is. And then taking control of time to make it work for […]

The damaging cycle of Shame and how to handle it

We all feel some level of shame for something – either something from the past or something in our current lives. The danger with shame is that we can mistake feeling sorry for a mistake – guilt, repentance, remorse, regret etc – with shame. On the other side, […]

Why do people rape?

Why do people rape? At a recent event, I asked two questions: Have you ever raped someone? Have you ever been raped? Of course no hands were raised! I wasn’t expecting any hands up either, because rape is the shame of all shames. When we talk about rape, […]

Beware the lie of – “Be a man, Be strong…”

Ronald Chepkwony was only 16 years old when his dad died. He narrates the story of being a privileged child, being bankrupted by disease and leading a non-privileged, grief-stricken adulthood. He starts by  telling us about his childhood, a distant father, who did not show any emotion and […]

There is solace in breaking our silence.

“There is a solace in breaking our silence. A strength of spirit when sharing our truth. It all starts with the choice to live on the other side of victim.” Christine Macdonald In honor of living on the other side of victim, this weekend, the ladies at Growth […]

You want to belong to yourself? Then act like it!

You know how you spent days, weeks, nights, weekends – months and years – consistently doing things to make someone stay with you? You missed a chance to go to college – because you were afraid they would not miss you. You thought that if you left, they […]