Kaari – a mother without a child

Kaari was 41 closing up on 42 when she realized that she may never have her own children. Not a single child from her body. She had never been married, not for lack of mates, rather lack of interest in the institution of marriage. There had been relationships, […]

Christine and Castro

I started writing this on the 18th of November. That is three weeks ago. You know how they speak about work-life balance? Well that is just hot-air because sometimes, work is the entirety of life. Additionally, life is work – the daily activity of living is hard work. […]

We don’t know them – and yet

I don’t know these women, yet, my heart is broken by their deaths. We have never met the children and they mean nothing to us. Why then does it feel like our collective souls were dragged into the children’s death. You know nothing about these murderous men or […]

Unconditional Love and Mental Health

Have you ever loved anyone so much, you expect nothing back? Unconditional love basically means you’re not expecting anything in return. I have always felt a little defect because I have never loved another adult unconditionally. Not once. I have no children, so that explains that. Though I […]

Does Beauty protect us from mental illness?

Does beauty protect us from mental illness? This question was asked at a mental health conference I once attended. A speaker spoke about beauty, the lack of beauty and its effect on mental health. It reminded me of the story below, and the lessons I learned about beauty. […]

Relationships in Histrionic Times

You know how people always talk about how ‘attention seeking’ we have become in this Facebook/Instagram generation?? We will post almost anything – even bodies in coffins – to get likes and sympathy. Or videos in compromising situations that should be private. Our bodies have become viral artwork […]

A Letter on Consistent Passion in Relationships?

On Twitter, I do these theme weeks that simply raise a question and let people vote. Now, I don’t have so many followers, but has a challenge such as few followers ever discouraged me? No. The hardest part of a journey is the start, right? So, if you […]

Narcissistic Personality Disorder in Relationships

In our 1st and 2nd posts in this series, we listed the Personality Disorders that can make it impossible to achieve stable mental health in relationships. Spending too much time with people who are suffering from a Personality Disorder can trigger mental illness. Even in people who have […]

Antisocial Personality Disorder in Relationships

In our 1st post in this series, we listed the Personality Disorders that can make it impossible to achieve stable mental health in relationships. In extreme cases, spending too much time with people who are suffering from a Personality Disorder can trigger mental illness in people who have […]

Dysfunctional Relationships – An introduction

When the curious case of Esther Arunga, the barrister come TV-presenter who became the wife of a mentally ill QT who murdered their son, hit the media, I was not alone to feel triggered. We expect personal development to be a positive progression of values, beliefs and behaviours […]