Depression is not a joke – a poem

They think you are insane They think you have a choice They think you can voice your pain They think you can get a better solution They think you are a rich spoilt kid They see you as an immature kid who don’t know what life holds They […]

Dealing with time shortage

At times, 168 hours are not enough to accomplish all the things on the “weekly” list. A great deal about mental health and self care is recognizing and accepting time limitation as the stress trigger it is. And then taking control of time to make it work for […]

Sometimes…

Sometimes you try to do the right things for yourself and they turn out to be the wrong things. Sometimes you try to make amends for screwing up and you end up in a deeper hole than you were before. More depressed than you were before. Sometimes change […]

How to handle the damaging cycle of Shame

We all feel some level of shame for something – either something from the past or something in our current lives. The danger with shame is that we can mistake feeling sorry for a mistake – guilt, repentance, remorse, regret etc – with shame. On the other side, […]

The paradox of a peaceful, harmonious life

How do you define Harmony? How do you define Peace-of-mind? Harmony is defined as forming a pleasing or consistent whole. To be free from disagreement or dissent. Which in its essence requires us to consciously reduce the chaos and messes in our lives. Peace of mind is the […]

Personal Connections and Emotional Health

Have you heard of or read Johan Hari’s book, Lost Connections? It is a bold and inspiring book where he shares his own journey with depression – but the book is helpful to far more than just those who suffer from depression. As Hari shows, we all have […]

Femicide in Kenya signals a Resistance to Change

Kenya is a deeply traditional and patriarchal society. In patriarchy, we create misogyny - where men think they are better than women, stronger than women, smarter than women, deserve more than women. Entitled. In a society where many women are marching towards equality and equity, the female becomes the male’s enemy number 1. And women...

Have you ever been raped?

Why do people rape? At a recent event, I asked two questions: Have you ever raped someone? Have you ever been raped? Of course no hands were raised! I wasn’t expecting any hands up either, because rape is the shame of all shames. When we talk about rape, […]

4 situations when Love isn’t enough

I seem to have loved you in numberless forms, numberless times. In life after life, in age after age, forever. My spellbound heart has made and remade the necklace of songs, That you take as a gift, wear round your neck in your many forms, In life after life, in age after age, forever.

Beware the lie – “Be a man, Be strong…”

Ronald Chepkwony was only 16 years old when his dad died. He narrates the story of being a privileged child, being bankrupted by disease and leading a non-privileged, grief-stricken adulthood. He starts by  telling us about his childhood, a distant father, who did not show any emotion and […]